That’s the title of one of my favorite musician’s songs, India Arie. The message is clear; one’s hair doesn’t make them who they are. Really? Then why are hair extensions and hair products selling so fast? There are hair salons in every corner, a million different hair styles, colours and cuts. Does my hair really not make me who I am? This crossed my mind when I was enduring a hot blow drier after relaxing my hair this morning.
|model Eva Pigford/ Marcel|
|India Arie(in Fro and Braids) Amber Rose bald, relaxed hair(source|
After years of chopping and changing, from afro, dreadlocks, short hair, braids and weave, I opted to straighten my hair last year. Like many black sisters, I use relaxer to straighten once every six weeks. In a nutshell, I have Eurocentric hair. It’s better to manage than my natural, very curly, kinky hair. Another topic for debate, a dreadlocked brother once said my relaxed hair means I’m not proud to be an African. My response, “brother, you speak English 80 per cent of the time, you don’t exactly go hunting for your next meal, nor do you walk around wearing animal hides in true African style”. Harsh? No, but true, I moved with the times, like the rest of the world. Evolution, why would one choose to drink river water when there’s running water.
I also have a friend who is always bald headed. She’s gorgeous, I wish I was as gutsy. She has stereotypes to deal with too. She says some people just assume she’s a lesbian.
Dreadlocks are cool too...
|Yaya Dacosta; Chrisette Michelle, Sanaa Lathan; conrows|
That brings me to another hair debate, extensions or natural? Not a day goes by that I don’t hear people discussing weaves. The debates are either on social networks or real reality. Surprisingly men get in on this one. You’d think men don’t care what hairstyle a woman has, but many do. Male friends shared with me their preconceived ideas about women’s hair.
I both love weaves and dreads
but I hate weaves in bed
Dreadlocks have always been part of our society as back people back in the day in xhosa community it was called ivithana but it was limted to traditional healers and single people n there where few single people as most ppl were married ... single ppl had a tendency of not taking care of themself and later people pretending to be rasta so that they can smoke weed freely embraced dreads and were also known for not taking care of themselves and then dreads were associated with being dirty
as we moved on dreads became fashion and now u c beautiful black sisters with dreads and I love them
that is my 2 cent
frankly, I don't really care...
but I love mine naturally....my woman with natural hair and all
|me in a few of the hairstyles I've done! trust me theres more|
With all the this said, I have reached a conclusion, which wasn’t influenced much all the opinions nor India Arie’s song. As a lady, you hair is your crown. It’s up to put jewels to enhance it or not, but it’s yours. It should be entirely up to you how you wear it. Just keep it neat and healthy. Not what's trending, or more appealing to men! just YOU! Now can we debate important matter rather than hair? Thank you